HUH?

You know, there's a lot of sense in the order of most things. For example, I find it pretty obviously logical that "God makes you so sick you don't care how big you get and then so big you don't care how much it hurts to get it out." Pregnancy, right? And we all know that if we were handed teenagers when we were new parents that the human species would die out.

But there are a few things about the order of our society that just leave me scratching my head.

At the time of our lives that we should be slowing down and soaking up time with our children, we're also in this race to build bigger, make more money, collect more things, take care of more stuff, and join in more. Let's face it, in our 20's, 30's, and 40's we're under a lot of pressure to work hard enough to solidify our future in our careers and to make enough money to live off of when we get old. And that's a HUGE job.

And this happens at the same moments that we're supposed to be creating and raising responsible human beings who can make decisions without hurting themselves and others, become good citizens, handle complicated relationships, and manage their own lives later on. Also a HUGE job.

Then throw in that largely during this time of amassing money, building a career, creating a home, and raising human beings..... we're supposed to start caring for our aging parents. It's perhaps too huge.

I don't know, Universe. This one doesn't make sense to me. Why does all of this happen at the same time? Shouldn't it make more sense to either raise kids first and then work on career? Or vice versa? Even if one partner decides to stay home and raise the kids and the other works outside of the home, both of those jobs are so huge that all that ends up happening is isolation in the relationship. That's a tough road for many many families that I know.

I need counseling to understand all of this. And maybe drugs.